One of Matthew’s friends in Texas just got engaged. He emailed us asking for wedding resource advice. Here’s what I jotted down for him in a few minutes…please feel free to add your best wedding tips/resources in the comments, and I’ll pass them on!
I don’t know anything about wedding vendors and resources in Texas, but here’s some advice from a bride/bridesmaid/friend/guest of many weddings….
If you know anyone who could arrange flowers for you (if your bride has a
friend who has ever worked for a florist, etc.), I LOVE Grower’s Box.
You can order a ton of beautiful wedding flowers (they have special
wedding packages) for a lot less money than using a local florist.
I’ve done flowers for two weddings this year and we ordered the
flowers from Grower’s Box and they were beautiful and fresh.
Trash the Dress has some amazing, inspiring ideas for
post-wedding portraits. Look at a LOT of photography blogs and
websites and be willing to put the money into a photographer who
really captures your style. The flowers fade, the food gets eaten,
but you’ll have your wedding portraits forever…they’re worth it.
You should be able to get an excellent, creative, professional for
$2,000 – $4,000. Get someone who will do an engagement session with
you well before the wedding as part of the photography package. It’s
important that they get to know you and practice shooting you so they
can really capture your day.
Hire a good videographer if you can possibly afford it. Don’t just
trust a friend with a crappy camcorder. You may only watch your
wedding video once a year, but you’ll be glad you have a good video of
You don’t have to spend a ton of money on cake. A lot of guests don’t
even like wedding cake. Don’t be afraid to do something
non-traditional. One awesome wedding we went to recently had a
cheesecake bar – a bunch of simple, plain cheesecakes from a local
restaurant, and a whole bar of toppings, like fruits, nuts, chocolate,
whipped cream, etc. So fun, so easy, so inexpensive! And delicious.
You can always have a tiny, one-layer cake for you to cut. Put fresh
flowers on the top and it’ll look like a million bucks. Or if you
like the look of a big traditional layered cake, order it from Sam’s
Club or something, iced simply in all-white, and put some of your
wedding flowers in the top of each layer.
Skip favors. They’re not worth the expense. Most guests will just
end up throwing them away.
Get someone to work closely with your bride to coordinate all the details -
someone who is really good with attention to detail. Having someone
check and double check things for her will take a lot of stress off
her and allow her to relax and enjoy the process. Also make sure she
appoints someone on the day of whose job is to take care of her…run
errands for her, make sure she’s eating and drinking, let her know
where to be and when, run interference on annoying relatives, etc.
Congrats again, and good luck!